eyekoeyeko Posted February 2, 2011 Report Share Posted February 2, 2011 Calling ALL Fellow Deadheads, I'm trying to find out if anyone, especially from the women in attendance on NYE, that might remember seeing a "friend" of mine who claims she was getting sick in the Klein Auditorium Mezzanine (Upper Level) Level Ladies Restroom during the 2nd Set or towards the end of the 2nd Set. She claims to have been there right up until closing. You see, we went to the show together, have a backstory, and had a pretty groovy thing going on the entire night. Or, so I thought. Things that night were awesome. I'll cut to the chase. At the 1st Set break I grabbed a champagne toast for us, a toast that she was well aware of and looking forward to for weeks. I waited and waited for her at our seats before the 2nd set started, and at the countdown to midnight she was nowhere to be found. The countdown came and went. I set down our toasts. Worried, I went out to the lobby looking for her, and as I turned the corner I see through a crowd of disillusioned heads her "sucking face" with some random bartender dude tending in the balcony at the Mezzanine Level bar. This dude was leaning was over his bar just kissing her. She was hammered, holding our drinks with a blank look on her face, and I'm pretty sure wasn't even aware of what was going on. I don't know. I felt he, the bartender, was taking advantage of her big time. I had a few choice words for both. She didn't say a word to me. I don't even know if she recognized me, saw me, or even heard me. Heartbroken, I just split after witnessing that. She never texted, called, or anything after that, and never made it back to our room/hotel that night and was very vague about her whereabouts when I asked her the next morning, except to say that she was taken in by the kindness of Klein employees that night. She claims to not know/remember a thing for 10 straight hours. I'm inclined to believe, well, you know what I'm inclined to believe as far as where she stayed and who she was with goes. It was an incredible bummer folks. I haven't spoken to her since New Years day, and I'd really like to know if ANYONE who was up there...in the Ladies Restroom on the Mezzanine level during the 2nd set especially, saw a girl in her late 20's with a bulky, longish, sweater on, blonde hair in a braided ponytail, wearing black tights, and a pair of black Uggs. Or, anywhere else in the Klein for that matter. She also said that a female security guard was tending to her while she was getting sick, or so she claims. Please, if you have any info, or know of anyone who might have info, it would help me out tremendously if you, or they, could pass it along to me. I'll be forever GRATEFUL. I really need to fill in some gaps, find the truth, and get some closure so I can properly move forward. It's all good right now, I'm just trying to put together some more pieces of this sordid puzzle. Dig? Please email or reply to this post. Thank You all sooooo so much. It's A Sugaree meets Black Throated Wind kind of feeling for me. Please help. Peas to all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Lisacat Posted February 2, 2011 Report Share Posted February 2, 2011 coming from someone has been roofied at a show and was faced with skepticism from friends, I certainly have sympathy if this is indeed what happened to your friend. However, I would be curious as to why she is not more concerned with what happened to her, because I sure as hell was when it happened to me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest DeadHeadShawn Posted February 2, 2011 Report Share Posted February 2, 2011 Its been a month.Why are you so worried about what she does with her life.Closer shoud have come when you did not call the police to report a missing person,and instead went to your roon and went to sleep.Sorry.Just sounds like a bunch of DRAMA Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ducats Posted February 2, 2011 Report Share Posted February 2, 2011 Its been a month.Why are you so worried about what she does with her life.Closer shoud have come when you did not call the police to report a missing person,and instead went to your roon and went to sleep.Sorry.Just sounds like a bunch of DRAMA closure Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eyekoeyeko Posted February 2, 2011 Author Report Share Posted February 2, 2011 coming from someone has been roofied at a show and was faced with skepticism from friends, I certainly have sympathy if this is indeed what happened to your friend. However, I would be curious as to why she is not more concerned with what happened to her, because I sure as hell was when it happened to me. That's exactly my concern. I don't know what happened and she doesn't either, or so she claims. She hasn't even bothered to talk to me about what really went down. I hope that wasn't the case with her...getting roofied...I'm so sorry you had to go through that experience. I tried to give her the benefit of the doubt, but she wouldn't even discuss it with me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eyekoeyeko Posted February 2, 2011 Author Report Share Posted February 2, 2011 Its been a month.Why are you so worried about what she does with her life.Closer shoud have come when you did not call the police to report a missing person,and instead went to your roon and went to sleep.Sorry.Just sounds like a bunch of DRAMA Hey Shawn, I don't mean to bring drama to the stage. I'm just concerned. Yeah, it's been a month, and I'm just wondering what went on. Reaching out to fellow heads who might be able to piece this together for me. As far as your comments about not calling police, going back to the room/crashing etc. are concerned, you couldnt be FURTHUR from the truth. I went back and didn't sleep ALL night. I called the Bridgeport PD several times asking about a missing Jane Doe who fit her description, nothing from them, flagged down a Bridgeport PD cruiser at 5 in the morning, nothing there, and called two local hospitals several times throughout the night asking about the same Jane Doe info. Thankfully, no luck there too. I'm worried about what she does in her life because she was my girlfriend this past summer, and justr recently we were grooving on a mighty fine high for months leading up to NYE, and for this to happen is pretty peculiar. Dig? I'm just concerned because she was big part of my life once. That's all. Thanks for your words brother. Peas. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eyekoeyeko Posted February 2, 2011 Author Report Share Posted February 2, 2011 closure Ducats, That's exactly what I'm looking for. Although, I've found a lot of closure already. Right on for understanding, friend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Lisacat Posted February 3, 2011 Report Share Posted February 3, 2011 That's exactly my concern. I don't know what happened and she doesn't either, or so she claims. She hasn't even bothered to talk to me about what really went down. I hope that wasn't the case with her...getting roofied...I'm so sorry you had to go through that experience. I tried to give her the benefit of the doubt, but she wouldn't even discuss it with me. well I kind of believe that if she was roofied, she would have been freaking out the next day, and asking you to help her put it together; unless she was embarrassed or something. I know when it happened to me, my friends told me I had the same blank look and then I was very very sick and then unconscious (at one point, apparently I did have my eyes open, but nobody was home) before they got me out of the venue. Then when I woke up the next morning at about 6 am, I turned to my friend and asked why the show was over and what happened....I literally had no clue and I was panicking because I couldn't figure it out... so I just find it weird that she wasn't coming to you for some closure with the situation herself. However, like I said, it could have happened and she is embarrassed... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest DeadHeadShawn Posted February 3, 2011 Report Share Posted February 3, 2011 Im sorry Brother,I dont mean to sound cold,But do you really want to hear that she was with someone else.It happens in this thing we call life.Look at it this way.Her loss,now you can move on to bigger and better things.Its not worth wondering about.It will just make you have sleepless nights,and there is nothing that can be done to change what happened.Look at the positive side.She made it through the night. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest pink68 Posted February 3, 2011 Report Share Posted February 3, 2011 Hey bud, I think that it is very gentlemanly of you to care about what happened to her. I can tell you this... A woman that I rode to the show with was indeed helping a young woman in the upper ladies room that night. She, the girl, was a mess and person I went with is a nurse. She was very concerned about this girl. This young woman was indeed getting sick. The woman stayed with her until and after an auditorium EMT, or what not came to her assistance. I know that the girl was in a bad way. Heres the deal, some women are flakes and flirts. Others can have a really bad thing happen to them at a show and forever be changed. She may have been raped and is now in a really bad place and can't face you. Or...she could have gone off and had a hell of a night. Whatever happened, it is nice of you to care about her. You do need to let her go and move forward. its a bummer to loose someone cool in your life but it is a good thing to lose somone who will only add this type of craziness. I wish you both well. I will ask the people I was with for more details. If anything more comes to light we will contact you. Best, Vicki Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eyekoeyeko Posted February 3, 2011 Author Report Share Posted February 3, 2011 Hey bud, I think that it is very gentlemanly of you to care about what happened to her. I can tell you this... A woman that I rode to the show with was indeed helping a young woman in the upper ladies room that night. She, the girl, was a mess and person I went with is a nurse. She was very concerned about this girl. This young woman was indeed getting sick. The woman stayed with her until and after an auditorium EMT, or what not came to her assistance. I know that the girl was in a bad way. Heres the deal, some women are flakes and flirts. Others can have a really bad thing happen to them at a show and forever be changed. She may have been raped and is now in a really bad place and can't face you. Or...she could have gone off and had a hell of a night. Whatever happened, it is nice of you to care about her. You do need to let her go and move forward. its a bummer to loose someone cool in your life but it is a good thing to lose somone who will only add this type of craziness. I wish you both well. I will ask the people I was with for more details. If anything more comes to light we will contact you. Best, Vicki Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eyekoeyeko Posted February 3, 2011 Author Report Share Posted February 3, 2011 Kind Vicki, Thank you so much for your info, keen insight, and words of wisdom. I am truly, and forever GRATEFUL for your beautiful spirit and compassion for a fellow head. I've taken your words to heart, mind, body and soul. Right on, Vicki. Words cannot express my deepest gratitude for people such as yourself. I've learned many lessons through this, most of all to never give my love "unto a foolish heart." Vicki, thanks again. Your words were so on time and so encouraging. You're a wonderful human being, one that humanity should be proud to call as one of our own. Time heals all. You've helped me heal. You have no idea. No idea. Friends and family have advised me the same as you. All of your words will not fall on deaf ears. You are an amazing person. Again, thank you. And please, if you have anymore info, I'd greatly appreciate hearing from you again. Closure has come down so magnificently as a result of your actions here. Peace and Love. Tim Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eyekoeyeko Posted February 5, 2011 Author Report Share Posted February 5, 2011 Hey bud, I think that it is very gentlemanly of you to care about what happened to her. I can tell you this... A woman that I rode to the show with was indeed helping a young woman in the upper ladies room that night. She, the girl, was a mess and person I went with is a nurse. She was very concerned about this girl. This young woman was indeed getting sick. The woman stayed with her until and after an auditorium EMT, or what not came to her assistance. I know that the girl was in a bad way. Heres the deal, some women are flakes and flirts. Others can have a really bad thing happen to them at a show and forever be changed. She may have been raped and is now in a really bad place and can't face you. Or...she could have gone off and had a hell of a night. Whatever happened, it is nice of you to care about her. You do need to let her go and move forward. its a bummer to loose someone cool in your life but it is a good thing to lose somone who will only add this type of craziness. I wish you both well. I will ask the people I was with for more details. If anything more comes to light we will contact you. Best, Vicki Hey Vicki, Thanks again for the info. Very much appreciated. Just curious...did your nurse friend mention, or does she happen to remember what point/time during the show she was assisting this woman, and did she give a description of her? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest pink68 Posted February 7, 2011 Report Share Posted February 7, 2011 Hey Vicki, Thanks again for the info. Very much appreciated. Just curious...did your nurse friend mention, or does she happen to remember what point/time during the show she was assisting this woman, and did she give a description of her? She was helping her during the second set. We are working on getting you more info. The person of whom I am speaking of is on vacation. Will be in touch! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Muddy Waters Posted February 7, 2011 Report Share Posted February 7, 2011 Respectfully...Sounds like you may have got played by the venus set. Her story is way to sketchy. Got taken in by the kindness of bridgeport staff. For Real? It's the oldest story in the world......You seem like a very kind person so know that you did things the right way and tried to be a stand up guy.... Your girlfriend broke bad on you. based 0n the facts represented here...Either she went off the deep end on the party train...or she simply went MIA on you for the show..either way her lack of communication and respect toward you since the show is a tell..even if she got dosed...friends dont treat friends that way...Plain and simple... Your energy should be directed to moving forward...The Wheel is turning.. all the best.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eyekoeyeko Posted February 8, 2011 Author Report Share Posted February 8, 2011 She was helping her during the second set. We are working on getting you more info. The person of whom I am speaking of is on vacation. Will be in touch! Thanks again, Pink/Vicki. I really do appreciate your shedding the kind light here. The puzzle is filling in nicely. Peace. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eyekoeyeko Posted February 8, 2011 Author Report Share Posted February 8, 2011 Respectfully...Sounds like you may have got played by the venus set. Her story is way to sketchy. Got taken in by the kindness of bridgeport staff. For Real? It's the oldest story in the world......You seem like a very kind person so know that you did things the right way and tried to be a stand up guy.... Your girlfriend broke bad on you. based 0n the facts represented here...Either she went off the deep end on the party train...or she simply went MIA on you for the show..either way her lack of communication and respect toward you since the show is a tell..even if she got dosed...friends dont treat friends that way...Plain and simple... Your energy should be directed to moving forward...The Wheel is turning.. all the best.... Right on, Muddy... I couldn't agree more with you. The lack of communication and respect speaks volumes, especially in her silence. I just never thought she could/would ever do me like that. I'm still holding out hope for her story, and I really want to believe her, but there's something that isn't adding up. I want to give her the benefit of the doubt etc., but it's been really hard. Thanks for the reply brother. I really do appreciate you taking time out of your life to respond. Very cool of you. Your words will not fall unheard. Indeed, the wheel is turning and it can't slow down. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Forum MVP Michael Doc Watson Posted February 8, 2011 Forum MVP Report Share Posted February 8, 2011 Eye, If the relationship between the lady and you was truely good, sound , and meant to last, and if she is a truely a good person worth keeping as a friend...eventually she will talk to you..it might be years from now so don't put a hold on life waiting...Learn what you can from Vicki's leads...be concerned for her safety ...and accept that for some reason she can't talk with you just yet. As Lisa said, it sounds like maybe she is too embarassed to face you just now. Sing a song of Love or maybe just the Blues...see some shows...live Life as you best can...and somewhere down the road the peaces will fit together. Peace and Love, Doc Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ducats Posted February 16, 2011 Report Share Posted February 16, 2011 Right on, Muddy... I couldn't agree more with you. The lack of communication and respect speaks volumes, especially in her silence. I just never thought she could/would ever do me like that. I'm still holding out hope for her story, and I really want to believe her, but there's something that isn't adding up. I want to give her the benefit of the doubt etc., but it's been really hard. Thanks for the reply brother. I really do appreciate you taking time out of your life to respond. Very cool of you. Your words will not fall unheard. Indeed, the wheel is turning and it can't slow down. so has the mystery been solved? i remember at least one hottie i would like to see again from bridgeport. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eyekoeyeko Posted March 2, 2011 Author Report Share Posted March 2, 2011 Thanks again, Pink/Vicki. I really do appreciate your shedding the kind light here. The puzzle is filling in nicely. Peace. Hi Pink/Vicki, Just wondering if you've heard anything back from your nurse friend as far as an ID of the girl she was assisting on NYE is concerned. Thanks again for everything. The last two months have been full of adjustments, re-adjustments, and furthur adjustments. Thanks to people like you, the "transition" for lack of a better word has been fairly smooth. Enjoy the coming days of spring, and summer. Peace, Vicki. Best regards, Eyeko Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Forum MVP Tom Banjo Posted March 3, 2011 Forum MVP Report Share Posted March 3, 2011 Its been a few months. I don't think you need a positive ID. Her story could be true or it could not be true, but in the end, it doesn't really matter anyway. Its time to pick up the pieces and forget about the whole ordeal. Just my two cents. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eyekoeyeko Posted March 10, 2011 Author Report Share Posted March 10, 2011 Eye, If the relationship between the lady and you was truely good, sound , and meant to last, and if she is a truely a good person worth keeping as a friend...eventually she will talk to you..it might be years from now so don't put a hold on life waiting...Learn what you can from Vicki's leads...be concerned for her safety ...and accept that for some reason she can't talk with you just yet. As Lisa said, it sounds like maybe she is too embarassed to face you just now. Sing a song of Love or maybe just the Blues...see some shows...live Life as you best can...and somewhere down the road the peaces will fit together. Peace and Love, Doc Hey Doc, I don't think I ever got the chance to express my thanks to you for your words of wisdom and encouragement. So, thanks a lot, man. As I've told others who posted their comments to my reaching out; I just want to let you know that it's really a great thing that you've all done here. Actually taking time out of your lives to help others is what it's all about. "Strangers stopping strangers...just to shake their hand" comes to mind. Thanks, Doc. Peas & Love, Eyeko Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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